With This Ring...
The ring – a circle – is a wonderful symbol for the intention of unending relationship. And it is a quick easy way to let others know that you are not available for courtship or coupling.
When I got married my husband and I talked a lot about our rings. My mother ended up helping him pick out the engagement ring. It is a simple stone set in sterling. But our wedding bands are a little unusual. We have jade wedding bands.
My husband is not a big fan of jewelry. But he does like jade. And as a stone it is supposed to embody the qualities that make up a good marriage; fidelity, wisdom, emotional balance, harmony, peace, stamina, humility, generosity, good health, wealth, courage, justice and mercy. Unlike metal rings, which are fairly hardy, jade is delicate. It must be taken care of and treated with respect; like a marriage.
My husband is on his fourth band in our fourteen years of marriage. I am on my third. My ring is protected by the metal engagement ring.
When he broke the first one he was at work. He called me, beside himself. “I broke it. I can’t believe I broke it.” he lamented. I thought it must be his leg or arm. When he finally explained that it was the ring, I was so relieved that he wasn’t injured I couldn’t be upset.
There are the few weeks when one or the other of us is ring-less. It could be a little awkward in social situations, but most people don’t say anything. Even when we do both have them, some people don’t realize the bands are wedding bands because they aren’t gold.
There is something affirming in making the commitment with the search for a new ring every few years. I recommend the delicate stone ring over the metal band for those very reasons.