I like the woman. She is also widowed. She is generous, smart, has a great sense of humor and actually puts up with less of his bullshit than his late wife did. They enjoy each other’s company. They play games and they watch TV or talk. They have taken several trips together.
His motivations – and her encouragement – have been all about the economic reasons this makes sense. She makes more money that he does. But he is the money manager. The idea is that they will merge their finances, and he will take over handling the bills and the budget. She will take care of him in his old age. She is an oncology nurse, so he listens to her health advice – for the most part.
I feel like she is hoping that romance will bloom. He has been clear that he likes her, but doesn’t feel “that way” about her. I hope she is not being set up for a painful fall. She has already watched one husband go through a prolonged and painful death. Being almost eight years his junior it may well happen again.
I know that there is (no longer) in this country a requirement that married couples live together. Though I imagine that eventually it will make economic sense for them to cohabitate. If nothing else there will come a time when his various conditions and maladies will require a more watchful eye and more continuous care. And she has adult children who might want to take advantage of her three-bedroom house with a yard.
So he gets a better financial outlook, someone to keep him company and know when he needs to go to the hospital and when some aspirin or a good night’s sleep will do.
She gets someone who can handle the money and see to it that they have funds for vacations and to handle emergencies. Someone who hang out with, who has a much wider life experience and is happy to introduce her to new foods, new destinations and things that have nothing to do with medicine.
They both get companionship, someone to care about and to care about them. They both get someone who makes up for their weaknesses and has complimentary strengths to add to the relationship.
It’s very practical. Who needs the volatile ups and downs of romance?