My thanksgiving wish for everyone reading is that you have much to be thankful for in each other and the chance to express it often.
As much as it is important to have gratitude within a relationship there is much to be thankful for on the marriage front in general these days. While I have only been married for thirteen years, my marriage would have been illegal in several states of the US merely forty-eight years ago.
As I have been delving into the history of marriage I am thankful to be married in a time and place that allows me a choice about my last name. A time and place where I can have a credit card or bank account of my own and where I have legal standing as an adult person – all things denied to married women in the Western world as recently as the 1970s. And still difficult for women, especially married women to get in some other places in the world today.
I am grateful that I was able to choose my own spouse and able to marry as an adult, not given into marriage as a child. Which is still a common practice in far too many places. For couples who are married before or in their youth and meet at the wedding, I am sure it is equally difficult on the groom as the bride.
As for consenting adults it has been a banner year on the marriage equality front, with many countries – Ireland, Finland and the United States - making same sex marriages legal. While it may be a little embarrassing that South Africa, Argentina and Uruguay beat us to the punch, better late than not at all. I am grateful that my gay friends who have wanted to be joined in one of the most fundamental social institutions now have that chance.
So no matter where you stand in relation to the world’s most ubiquitous, yet invisible social building block, I hope you have at least one some one to be thankful for this year. And I hope you get to share a feast with them, and let them know how grateful you are to have them in your life.