I read an amazing blog post by a woman named Amanda Crose who choose to stay with her husband when he transitioned to being a woman. She clearly loves her spouse just as much as when he was man. She has never considered herself gay or even bisexual. But she remains attracted to the person that her spouse has always been, even in the revamped body. It is the person, the personality, the soul that she fell in love with and in spite of confusion and social push back she has stayed with her wife.
I don’t envision my husband choosing to live life as a woman. However I think I would choose to stay with him if he became her. After all so much of married life is not about sex, but about two people caring for each other, building a home and a life together. It is about supporting each other in our careers, being there during crisis and through the vicissitudes of life. It is the business of running a house and a family. It is spiritual work of helping each other grow. And quite frankly if you can make those things work, the sex part seems pretty easy to work out.
If your spouse needed to transition or just live life as the opposite gender they expressed when you married would you stick around? If so, why? If not, why not? What are the real deal breakers?